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Transform Your Dating Strategy: How to Revisit and Find Your Mr. Right”

June 24, 20243 min read

“If you want something different, you have to do something different” - Jen and Kim

The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results.  If you are sitting around wondering why you haven’t met Mr. Right yet, ask yourself, what do you keep doing?

Maybe that’s the problem you don’t know what to do.  You have an idea of what you want, you go out, your calendar is full, but finding the right guy keeps escaping you. 

Or maybe in your heart of hearts you know you want a fulfilling loving relationship but the thought of getting back out there and actually going out makes you sick to your stomach.  After all who wants to start over? It might even seem easier just to go it alone.  But do you really want to be alone?  Great friends and family is one thing, having a loving supportive, sexy man is another. 

If you are at home wondering how you’re still single when you are so successful in every other aspect of your life then it’s time to really get clear on what you want and revisit what has worked in the past and re-evaluate what you want.

Take a moment to think about what your life would be with if you had the right partner.  Imagine vacationing together, coming home to someone who asks you about your day, or just snuggling up on the couch.  Don’t deny yourself of the relationship you want.

Start by reviewing your dating history.  Looking back on you relationships ask yourself, what were the things you loved about the person?  Why didn’t it work?  Usually there are things you loved about one man and things you loved about another.  If you were going to take the best from each, what who would that person be?

Write down all the traits and characteristics you like. When you think about the things that didn’t work write the opposite.  For example if you hated that he was always late you would want a trait to be, “he is always on time”.  Spend some time getting really clear about what you want.

After you revisit boyfriends past in your mind and you have a clear picture of what you want it is time to re-evaluate what you have been doing to put yourself in a position to meet Mr. Right.

Do you go to the same lunch place everyday?  Is your routine so predictable that you see the same people at the gym or in line getting coffee?  It’s time to mix it up.  Go someplace new, change the time you workout, take a class you have always wanted.  What you do is not that important, doing the activity is what counts, so do something!

A great way to get help in revisiting and re-evaluating is to ask a friend.  Typically friends know you best.  In this case they have probably seen you in good times and bad and they sometimes even know your routine better then you do.  Find out from them what they see when you are happy.  You can also ask people you know who are in good relationships where they met?

If you have a single girlfriend, be accountability partners (if you need support encouragement and action steps join our Inner Circle) and commit to going to new places and events and finding new organizations. The trick is if you want something different, you have do do something different.

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Jen and Kim

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