So what if it is New Year’s Eve and you don’t have anyone you want to kiss?! Instead of thinking it’s the end of the world, think it is the beginning of world instead and that this is going to be your year. Decide right now that you are going to go for it with all your heart this year.
Maybe what’s holding you back from finding your true love is you simply don’t know what to do. You have an idea of what you want. You go out, you have a busy calendar, but finding the right guy keeps escaping you.
Or maybe in your heart of hearts you know you want a fulfilling loving relationship but the thought of getting back out there and actually going out makes you sick to your stomach. After all, who wants to start over? It might even seem easier just to go it alone. But do you really want to be alone? Great friends and family are one thing; having a loving supportive, sexy man and partner is another.
If you are at home wondering how you’re still single when you are so successful in every other aspect of your life, then it’s time to really get clear on what you want by revisiting what has worked in the past and re-evaluating what you really want now.
Take a moment to think about what your life would be like if you had the right partner. Imagine vacationing together, coming home to someone who asks you about your day, or just snuggling up on the couch. Don’t deny yourself the relationship you want.
Start by reviewing your dating history. Look back on you relationships and ask yourself: what were the things you loved about the person? Why didn’t it work? Usually there are things you loved about one man and other things you loved about another. If you were going to take the best from each, who would that person be? Write down all the traits and characteristics you like.
When you think about the things that didn’t work, write the opposite. For example, if you hated that he was always late, you would want a trait to be, “He is always on time”. Spend some time getting really clear about what you want.
After you revisit boyfriends past in your mind and you have a clear picture of what you want, it is time to re-evaluate what you have been doing to put yourself in a position to meet Mr. Right.
Do you go to the same lunch place every day? Is your routine so predictable that you see the same people at the gym or in line getting coffee? It’s time to mix it up. Go someplace new, change the time you workout, take a class you have always wanted. What you do is not that important. Doing the activity is what counts, so do something!
A great way to get help in revisiting and re-evaluating is to ask a friend. Typically friends know you best. In this case, they have probably seen you in good times and bad, and they sometimes even know your routine better than you do. Find out from them what they see when you are happy. You can also ask people you know who are in good relationships where they met.
If you have a single girlfriend, become accountability partners and commit to going to new places and events and to finding new organizations to join.
After you have revisited and gleaned information, let go of the past so you can have the future you want!
It’s your time to have it all!