Prince Charming Doesn’t Exist

Prince Charming Doesn’t Exist

Let’s face it. Growing up as little girls most of us loved the story of Cinderella. Who doesn’t want to be rescued by a handsome man on a white horse? It seems exciting and wonderful. The story ends as expected and we see them ride off into the sunset believing that they have the perfect life. The story changes as we grow up with different movies coming out with the same general theme. “Pretty Woman” is a perfect example of a man rescuing a woman, but in this version she gets into a limo and rides off. However, we are left to assume that they embark on a perfect life.   The images we see in movies, TV, commercials, and magazines look like pure bliss. There is only one problem: it isn’t reality. Happily ever after does exist, but not in the way we see depicted all around us. You need to create your own happily ever after with the understanding that it is not going to be perfect every day. There is a reason why wedding vows say in sickness and in health and in good times and bad. It means there are going to be easy days and days you’re wondering why you got into a relationship in the first place.   If you have been single for a while, be prepared for adjustments, compromises and some tears. Also be prepared for romantic moments, unconditional support and laughter. Your relationship is going to have them all. The key is to make sure you are having many more good moments than upsetting ones. Be prepared to handle both...
Stop Being with Mr. Good Enough.

Stop Being with Mr. Good Enough.

Let’s face it: sometimes dating, well, it just sucks. The quest to find Mr. Right is full of ups and downs. Date one is great but by date three, you start to see some of his true colors and they aren’t that pretty. You might even ask yourself, “ Am I being too picky? Should I lower my standards?” The answer for both questions is absolutely not.   You deserve to be in a relationship that makes you happy and that is fulfilling, even if the thought of getting back out there and dating again makes you sick to your stomach. After all, who wants to start over? You do.   Settling for Mr. Good Enough is a recipe for disaster. Why do you think most marriages fail? Many times people get married for the wrong reasons to the wrong person.   Being alone may not seem like an ideal situation, but it is better than being with the wrong person. Even if everyone around you is in a relationship, don’t stay in an okay relationship simply because you want to be with someone. Someone is not good enough. You want the right person for you.   If you aren’t sure he is the one, chances are, he is not. Pay attention to your instincts and how you feel when you are around him. Ask yourself these questions:   Do I feel like I can be myself when I am with him? Am I happier when I am with him or without him? Do I make excuses for him and his behavior? Am I looking to change him?  ...
Put A Ring on It

Put A Ring on It

Is what your mom told you wrong? Are you scratching your head wondering if this is it? You grew up believing you can do and achieve everything and out you went to conquer the business world. Perhaps your mom engrained in your brain how important it was to be successful and independent. She might have even told you, “you don’t need a man in your life” and “make sure you can take care of yourself.” So here you are now: single, successful, and you can take of yourself. You have a nice home, great friends and an active social life. Maybe you are at a point of thinking what’s next or even what’s missing? For some reason, the song stuck in your head is from 2008 and you keep hearing Beyonce say, “All the single ladies, if you like it, you shoulda put a ring on it.” Listening to that song has you scratching your head, wondering how it is possible that you are still single when you have so much to offer. So what’s a single girl to do? Start by deciding what relationships you want in your life. Think about both personal and professional relationships. Once you know what you want and can visualize your relationships coming to fruition, write down what you want to experience. Writing down what you want is an important step. This will be your guide to fulfilling your expectations. If you keep your thoughts in your head, you are missing out on getting clarity. Schedule time in your planner to write down exactly what you want. Too many times we have an...
Top Tips for Finding Love This Year

Top Tips for Finding Love This Year

  Ah, a New Year. You feel inspired and ready to go after what you want. You are ready for your resolution that says this year you will find love. You’re not the only one who has this type of resolution. Statistics show that having resolutions concerning relationships is pretty common. In fact, over 30% of the population has relationship resolutions, according to the Statistic Brain Research Institute. Unfortunately, the truth is that only 8% of the people actually achieve their goal and stick to their resolutions. If you want to achieve relationship success in the New Year, we have 5 top tips for you to make sure you end the year in love. Mind your mindset. So what if last year you dated more frogs than princes! This is your year and you have to believe it, right from the beginning. Start by visualizing your ideal man and think about what you are doing together and how you feel. Write down what you want. Read it every day and visualize your relationship. Say to yourself positive affirmations daily about finding the love of your life. Get your girlfriends together and have a vision board party to create images of your ideal relationships. Let people know what you are looking for. Ask a friend who is also looking for love to be your accountability partner to make sure you are managing your mindset. If you don’t think you will find him, you probably won’t. If you believe he is out there, then let the universe conspire to help you. Just be careful what you ask for!   Get clear...
The Quest to Find Mr. Right in 2016: Revisit and Re-evaluate

The Quest to Find Mr. Right in 2016: Revisit and Re-evaluate

So what if it is New Year’s Eve and you don’t have anyone you want to kiss?! Instead of thinking it’s the end of the world, think it is the beginning of world instead and that this is going to be your year. Decide right now that you are going to go for it with all your heart this year. Maybe what’s holding you back from finding your true love is you simply don’t know what to do. You have an idea of what you want. You go out, you have a busy calendar, but finding the right guy keeps escaping you. Or maybe in your heart of hearts you know you want a fulfilling loving relationship but the thought of getting back out there and actually going out makes you sick to your stomach. After all, who wants to start over? It might even seem easier just to go it alone. But do you really want to be alone? Great friends and family are one thing; having a loving supportive, sexy man and partner is another. If you are at home wondering how you’re still single when you are so successful in every other aspect of your life, then it’s time to really get clear on what you want by revisiting what has worked in the past and re-evaluating what you really want now. Take a moment to think about what your life would be like if you had the right partner. Imagine vacationing together, coming home to someone who asks you about your day, or just snuggling up on the couch. Don’t deny yourself the relationship you...
Fall In Love with the Spirit of the Season

Fall In Love with the Spirit of the Season

As the holiday season culminates this week with Hanukkah, which has come to a close, and Christmas and Kwanzaa, which are celebrated this weekend and into next week, the spirit of the season is something to fall in love with. The truth is, at the heart of the season is YOU. The messages of the season can help you navigate your year and find love: Peace on Earth – finding the peace you seek when it comes to the relationships you want is part of the holiday experience. We want to encourage you to find peace within yourself with the relationships you have had in the past and clear the space for the brand new relationship you want to find and enjoy in the new year. Good will toward men and women – as you seek the peace we suggest above, find that sense of good will toward the men you have dated up until now and appreciate what you have learned about the relationship you really want as a result. Use that information to help you avoid repeating the same relationship experience and define the person and relationship you are now seeking. Be gracious with the women you meet who are also seeking the man of their dreams. They are on their own journeys. And cheer on those who have found their soulmates and celebrate them. You are next and will enjoy celebrating your relationship joy with others too. Miracles really do happen – just like the eight nights of Hanukkah and the birth of the baby Jesus, miracles really do happen when it comes to love. Many...

Where is he?!

This question was thrown around our circle of friends almost every time we got together. After every bad date or when a relationship ended, it would come up again and again.   Asking this question led to numerous other questions:   Will I ever meet someone? What is wrong with me? Why can’t I find someone? Is it ever going to happen for me?   It was an endless cycle of dating, sorting, wondering, hoping and sometimes even pretending that he was the one, so you wouldn’t have to get back out there and ask again, “Where is he?”   When Charlotte on Sex In the City said, “I’ve been dating since I was fifteen. I’m exhausted. Where is he?”, we all nodded our heads and felt her pain because we too were wondering the same thing.   The question we should be asking ourselves is, “What do I want?”   So many times we have an image in our minds of what the perfect man should look like, what he should do for a living, or even how much he makes, but do we know what really makes us tick?   Too many times we are so focused on the superficial that we forget what it really is that we are looking for, or rather how we want to feel about the relationship we’re searching for.   Think of your ideal relationship from a different perspective. Think of what you are doing with your love, how you are feeling when you are with your soulmate, and what the future looks like for you together. Visualize what an absolutely fabulous day in...

New Year = Your New Man

Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right? This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year. Not sure it can really happen for you? Not certain that you are ready for it? This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him. When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you. You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business. Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year. You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year. Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it...

Be Complete Before You Meet Him

Remember that popular scene in the movie, Jerry Maguire, when Tom Cruise’s character, Jerry, says that famous line to Renee Zellweger’s character, Dorothy,  “You…complete me,” and so many of our hearts melted as we heard it? We’d like to hit the pause button on the DVD or BlueRay player and suggest that you take a moment to think about this: Before you venture out to find Mr. Right, be complete with yourself. As the new year rolls in, make a commitment to be complete with past relationships you’ve long abandoned, past jobs you’ve left behind and all the people who weren’t really supportive of you in your quest to find the right man for you. Close these out once and for all so you can regain the energy that any thoughts and feelings about these have been draining in your life. Sweep out the old to make room for the right and bright new ones. Now, get clear, really clear, about who your dream man is and what career you really love. Understand what is most important to you. Be certain. Be confident. Be complete with both: boys and business. Then actively seek the life you say you want. Write it down. Use the Dear God Letter to prioritize what you absolutely must have to make it right. Make a point of reading through it every day. Keep in mind: What you think about, you bring about. By keeping these details at the top of your mind, you’ll tend to focus on finding what you desire, instead of what you don’t. So when you finally say that famous follow-up...

Holiday Spirit in Question?

Maybe you are one of those people who just can’t seem to get into the holiday spirit.  You would rather stay inside all day then take part of all the hoopla.  That is perfectly fine.  Just don’t stay home sulking, stay home and be productive.  Use this down time to journal and highlight your years successes.  Write down everything big and small.  Think about your favorite moments of the year, what were you doing?  See if you can find the activities that make you smile.  This is a great exercise to remind you of all the things you have accomplished. This is also the perfect time to clean your closets and clean out the clutter in your house and make room for new clothes, new opportunities and a new man.  If you are holding on to anything of boyfriends past reflect on why you are holding on to the object then check in with yourself and see how you are feeling and decide to get rid of it.  New door usually only open when old doors close.  Go out and enjoy yourself or read a great romance novel, or go to a chick flick, they can help you visualize the type of relationship you really want. Above all be yourself and do activities that would comfort your...
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