The Quest to Find Mr. Right in 2016: Revisit and Re-evaluate

The Quest to Find Mr. Right in 2016: Revisit and Re-evaluate

So what if it is New Year’s Eve and you don’t have anyone you want to kiss?! Instead of thinking it’s the end of the world, think it is the beginning of world instead and that this is going to be your year. Decide right now that you are going to go for it with all your heart this year. Maybe what’s holding you back from finding your true love is you simply don’t know what to do. You have an idea of what you want. You go out, you have a busy calendar, but finding the right guy keeps escaping you. Or maybe in your heart of hearts you know you want a fulfilling loving relationship but the thought of getting back out there and actually going out makes you sick to your stomach. After all, who wants to start over? It might even seem easier just to go it alone. But do you really want to be alone? Great friends and family are one thing; having a loving supportive, sexy man and partner is another. If you are at home wondering how you’re still single when you are so successful in every other aspect of your life, then it’s time to really get clear on what you want by revisiting what has worked in the past and re-evaluating what you really want now. Take a moment to think about what your life would be like if you had the right partner. Imagine vacationing together, coming home to someone who asks you about your day, or just snuggling up on the couch. Don’t deny yourself the relationship you...
Fall In Love with the Spirit of the Season

Fall In Love with the Spirit of the Season

As the holiday season culminates this week with Hanukkah, which has come to a close, and Christmas and Kwanzaa, which are celebrated this weekend and into next week, the spirit of the season is something to fall in love with. The truth is, at the heart of the season is YOU. The messages of the season can help you navigate your year and find love: Peace on Earth – finding the peace you seek when it comes to the relationships you want is part of the holiday experience. We want to encourage you to find peace within yourself with the relationships you have had in the past and clear the space for the brand new relationship you want to find and enjoy in the new year. Good will toward men and women – as you seek the peace we suggest above, find that sense of good will toward the men you have dated up until now and appreciate what you have learned about the relationship you really want as a result. Use that information to help you avoid repeating the same relationship experience and define the person and relationship you are now seeking. Be gracious with the women you meet who are also seeking the man of their dreams. They are on their own journeys. And cheer on those who have found their soulmates and celebrate them. You are next and will enjoy celebrating your relationship joy with others too. Miracles really do happen – just like the eight nights of Hanukkah and the birth of the baby Jesus, miracles really do happen when it comes to love. Many...

Where is he?!

This question was thrown around our circle of friends almost every time we got together. After every bad date or when a relationship ended, it would come up again and again.   Asking this question led to numerous other questions:   Will I ever meet someone? What is wrong with me? Why can’t I find someone? Is it ever going to happen for me?   It was an endless cycle of dating, sorting, wondering, hoping and sometimes even pretending that he was the one, so you wouldn’t have to get back out there and ask again, “Where is he?”   When Charlotte on Sex In the City said, “I’ve been dating since I was fifteen. I’m exhausted. Where is he?”, we all nodded our heads and felt her pain because we too were wondering the same thing.   The question we should be asking ourselves is, “What do I want?”   So many times we have an image in our minds of what the perfect man should look like, what he should do for a living, or even how much he makes, but do we know what really makes us tick?   Too many times we are so focused on the superficial that we forget what it really is that we are looking for, or rather how we want to feel about the relationship we’re searching for.   Think of your ideal relationship from a different perspective. Think of what you are doing with your love, how you are feeling when you are with your soulmate, and what the future looks like for you together. Visualize what an absolutely fabulous day in...

New Year = Your New Man

Who said mathematics doesn’t work when it comes to love?  It’s a new year this week.  Out with the old and in with the new, right? This is your time to clear out the experiences with dates and boyfriends past and get ready to gear up for the year you’ll meet your dream guy – this year. Not sure it can really happen for you? Not certain that you are ready for it? This is the week and this is your time to believe in the dream that he is out there for you and that you are indeed ready to meet him. When you combine your sincere belief with the power of your intent to meet him, you too will find that you are ready to put Boys Before Business to work for you. You’ll also find that along with your new man will come better business when you put Boys Before Business. Accept the invitations to celebrate relationships past and let them go at midnight to make room for the new man for the new you this year. You just might find that finding Mr. Right will make you Mrs. Rich in every area of your life this year. Yes!  It’s definitely your time to have it...

Be Complete Before You Meet Him

Remember that popular scene in the movie, Jerry Maguire, when Tom Cruise’s character, Jerry, says that famous line to Renee Zellweger’s character, Dorothy,  “You…complete me,” and so many of our hearts melted as we heard it? We’d like to hit the pause button on the DVD or BlueRay player and suggest that you take a moment to think about this: Before you venture out to find Mr. Right, be complete with yourself. As the new year rolls in, make a commitment to be complete with past relationships you’ve long abandoned, past jobs you’ve left behind and all the people who weren’t really supportive of you in your quest to find the right man for you. Close these out once and for all so you can regain the energy that any thoughts and feelings about these have been draining in your life. Sweep out the old to make room for the right and bright new ones. Now, get clear, really clear, about who your dream man is and what career you really love. Understand what is most important to you. Be certain. Be confident. Be complete with both: boys and business. Then actively seek the life you say you want. Write it down. Use the Dear God Letter to prioritize what you absolutely must have to make it right. Make a point of reading through it every day. Keep in mind: What you think about, you bring about. By keeping these details at the top of your mind, you’ll tend to focus on finding what you desire, instead of what you don’t. So when you finally say that famous follow-up...

Holiday Spirit in Question?

Maybe you are one of those people who just can’t seem to get into the holiday spirit.  You would rather stay inside all day then take part of all the hoopla.  That is perfectly fine.  Just don’t stay home sulking, stay home and be productive.  Use this down time to journal and highlight your years successes.  Write down everything big and small.  Think about your favorite moments of the year, what were you doing?  See if you can find the activities that make you smile.  This is a great exercise to remind you of all the things you have accomplished. This is also the perfect time to clean your closets and clean out the clutter in your house and make room for new clothes, new opportunities and a new man.  If you are holding on to anything of boyfriends past reflect on why you are holding on to the object then check in with yourself and see how you are feeling and decide to get rid of it.  New door usually only open when old doors close.  Go out and enjoy yourself or read a great romance novel, or go to a chick flick, they can help you visualize the type of relationship you really want. Above all be yourself and do activities that would comfort your...

New Year New Love

How can another year have passed and you still haven’t met the love of your life? You might be thinking you can’t have it all and maybe you’re thinking you are just going to be satisfied with your life the way it is right now. Stop your stinkin’ thinking! There is no reason to settle for status quo when you can have it all! There are some things you can do right now to get ready for the life of your dreams in 2011. Our new newlywed, Shawn, started her search for Mr. Right by cleaning out her closets and making room for him. That’s right, out with the old so the new can walk in. Now is the perfect time to throw out anything that you haven’t worn or used in the last year and it’s the perfect time to donate what you don’t want, to charity. Give your home and office a once over and create environments that support your goals. Next, decide what you want, what you truly want. One of the biggest things that can hold you back from everlasting love is you not being clear about the type of person you want to attract or what you are seeking as the next phase in your professional life. Take time to write your list of who and what you want. Use www.deargodletter.com/bbb to make it easy and fun. Surround yourself with a visual representation of what you want in your life. Create the vision board you promised yourself you would. Gather your girlfriends together and have a vision board party. We offer a simple kit...

Lift Your Holiday Spirits

We have heard some great stories about how women have met the men of their dreams during the holiday season because they actually stopped working and started embracing the holiday activities in their area. Here are some suggestions for how to get out and celebrate the holiday cheer while raising your spirits and looking for your Mr. Right: 1)      Join efforts to feed the hungry in your area. If you enjoy volunteering and if you have an interest in sharing the abundance you have with those less fortunate, donate your time and find activities in your area where you can feed the homeless, elderly, sick or those who can’t afford to provide a delicious meal for themselves and their loved ones this holiday season.  Check with your local food bank and other organizations for information and events.  You never know – you might just meet him while serving mashed potatoes at the soup kitchen while he serves up the turkey with all the trimmings. 2)      Pay attention to invitations to events from organizations and groups you belong to. Instead of passing on the holiday gatherings offered by organizations and networking groups you participate in, take time out to celebrate the season with those you’ve done business with.  Toast a year of great business success and see how your relationships here have served you well.  Take clues from them and put the qualities you enjoy in these relationships into your Dear God Letter to help you describe the one you want to build with the man of your dreams. 3)      Look for flyers and announcements about events and parties at...

Gratitude Can Be the Key to Success

This is a time of year that can be filled with joy and happiness or filled with stress. Holidays can mean so many different things for different people. For many, this is a cherished time spent with family and friends and a time to give thanks for all the blessings in our lives. For others, the pressures of the holiday season make our stress levels rise and it is sometimes difficult to find the joy and happiness when what is foremost on our thoughts is: Why am I still alone? The best solution for holiday blues or stress is to come from a place of gratitude. Start by making a list of all the people you are grateful for in your life. Then add to the list the things you are grateful for in your life. Share with the people on your list your thoughts and feelings and let them know how much they are appreciated. When you come from a place of gratitude and are able to fully appreciate what you DO have in your life, you will find it’s a powerful way to let go of what could have, or should have been. Being in a state of appreciation is the same as being in abundance. Your focus is on what you do have and you always get more of what you focus on. Having awareness of everything you do have in your life and by showing appreciation, you can start to attract the right people into your life. Relationships can actually be energized simply by showing appreciation. During this time of year, keep your focus and...

Past Relationships Leave Clues

As the holidays begin to creep up on everyone, you may be dreading another season alone and being the “single girl” around the holiday tables. We encourage you to do a little pre-year-end review of the relationships you’ve had so you can really get clear about the one you want to have now. As you look back on each one, identify first what you liked, what you enjoyed doing and your favorite, favorite parts of it. These are probably the qualities you’d like to repeat in a new relationship. Next, think about what you didn’t enjoy and experiences you wouldn’t want to live through again. You see, past relationships leave clues so you can clarify the characteristics you’d like to have in the next one. Maybe you’ve heard the expression, “I keep creating the same relationship with each new guy.” Well, we’re here to tell you…you don’t have to! What you have to do to stop the cycle of choosing the same guy or creating the same relationship is reflect on the past, get clear about what you experienced, understand what you liked and what you want to change…and then keep what you liked and make new choices about the man you want to be with and the qualities you want to have in your new relationship. We also recommend updating your Dear God Letter once you’ve completed your review. This is the best way to solidify your new choices so you can write them down. Every relationship you have gives you more information about you. Consider looking at your other relationships for clues too – family, friends and...
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